Thursday, April 19, 2012

Exactly Why Am I Still In Love Even When My Ex-Mate Is Not

By Christine Pohl


Sometimes you will find yourself in a situation where you can say "While I am still in love, my ex does not feel the same way", and that is surely a terrible situation to find yourself in. How can you go about rekindling love when your ex no longer seems to be interested in making things work? When you approach a situation where you are saying to yourself,

"I am still in love, my ex wants absolutely nothing to do with me", it may be time for you to sit down and take something of the inventory of your relationship, with its current state but the last state experienced before the breakup actually occurred. Can there be anything that you have the power to change or undo in order to restore better feelings between you and your ex? Now is the ideal time for you to figure this out for your own personal self.

"What do I do if while I am still in love, my ex does not want anything to do with me?"

The first thing that you need to do is to figure out why your ex is avoiding you. If tensions are still too high following the breakup, then the clear solution is to back away and give him or her some time to chill. If your ex is avoiding you for a specific reason then it may be more advantageous to figure out why. If you cannot ask your boyfriend or girlfriend specifically, you may want to ask any mutual friends that you have to see if you can score some insights concerning the current tension and what it is that will restore your ex's faith in you again.

Here is some practical advice:

After I realized that I was still in love, my ex still did not seem all too keen on rekindling things with me. I figured I had two different routes that I could take: I could give up on the truth that I was still in love, my ex coming out as the winner in the situation, or I possibly could find some way to truly rekindle things, knowing that it would take work but might have much better potential results. So this is what I did:

- First, without letting on that I was still in love, my ex and that i sat down and had a conversation by what "broke down" in the relationship to create the split up in the first place.

- Then I separated myself from my ex for a while so tempers could be calmed and so I could formulate a plan for rekindling things.

- After i felt braver, I re-approached my ex and we started talking about rekindling things again. I had been surer of myself and was more obvious concerning the fact that I was still in love, my ex responded well to my confidence and that we ended up rekindling things.




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