Thursday, August 13, 2009

I Dumped My Boyfriend But Now I Want Him Back

By Andyl Bergerl

So you were dating a guy you really liked and then one day you noticed a tiny little issue about him that you didn't really like and you dumped boyfriend! Just like that! Out of the blue! But have you really dug down deep to try and understand why you dumped boyfriend?

You may think that you do not like the way he eats his food or may be the way he smiles and even the way he moves in social events that you seem to find odd. These may just be the little things that made you change your mind and dump him right away. Then suddenly you realize that you made a mistake and know you want your boyfriend back. But he was hurt by the breakup and the things you did has failed so far. So what do you need to do next?

Well, have you tried just leaving him alone for a while? Because pretty much you've hurt his feelings big time and he's doubtless feeling humiliated. If you've been calling him 24/7 and he's just not picking up, then that's a clear indication that he needs you to leave him alone.

It is definitely recommended that you stop sending him several text messages every minute and try to stop yourself from picking up the phone to call him. Give your bf sufficient time to think about things and let him find reasonable motives why you just scrapped him without any warning signs.

Some girls have the tendency to test their relationship by several ways which includes breakups with their boyfriends. They do this to test if their boyfriend will fight for the relationship no matter what. However, if this is the real reason why you broke up with him in the first place is certainly wrong. Why are you testing your relationship when he is clearly in love with you? Is it him? Or is it really you who has a problem?

An individual who manipulates someones feelings can be suffering from confidence issues. A person with low self esteem must fight this tendency to manipulate someones feelings to assure something. You must change it because self confidence defines who you are and how you carry things. There will be times that you may think something negative about yourself so you must contest it. Look for ways to address the real problem and do not pin it to someone else.

To win back a dumped boyfriend you're going to have to clearly work on yourself. No self-respecting boyfriend wants to be around someone who is high maintenance and doesn't know her own mind. In future, make sure you're one hundred per cent sure about what you are doing and why you are doing it.

Instead of dumping the guy, why not sit and talk to him about your fears and your insecurities. He will think more of you if you are honest with him, rather than if you simply lash out on a whim and dump him for what appears to be no good reason.

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